For both adults & children, bullying can be very traumatic & cause long-term emotional damage. It makes us feel powerless, small & unloved. We can’t understand why others have chosen to bully us & begin to turn the blame on ourselves. We believe it is our fault for “not being good enough” or “not being pretty enough”.
Prolonged periods of bullying act to reinforce negative messages coming from the bullying & our sense of blame. These are then exacerbated by fear & anxiety. We go into ourselves & lose our true sense of self.
What we do
Understanding the psychology of bullying is extremely empowering for victims & will arm them in dealing with difficult people in various situations.
Working together, we will build a toolkit of strategies to deal with bullies & learn to assert ourselves while ensuring that we do not harbour negative beliefs about ourselves that damage us in the longer term.
- We will forgive ourselves & remind ourselves that bullying is not our fault.
- We will cease to see ourselves as victims.
- We will learn how to diffuse difficult situations, build rapport with others & assert ourselves in the school environment, home or workplace.